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Ever sat at home on a Friday night, content with your life and your 9 – 5 but with a niggling feeling in the back of your mind wondering – is this all there is?
Or wondered where all of the hopes and goals you *used* to have have gone, buried under bills and debts and obligations? Or maybe dreamed of doing more, but flopped on the couch at the end of a long work day exhausted and unsure of where to even start?
I have, and it sucks.
When you’re in that place, looking forward to where you think you might like to be is overwhelming – especially when the distance between here and there seems just too big.
Often, you just don’t know where to start – so you don’t.
In this episode, I go through some steps you can take to, quite literally, achieve anything you want.
Do literally anything related to your goal. If you want a successful blog that will launch you into self-employment, set up a website. Or sit down and write and article – or even just a few sentences. If you want to lose 10 kilos, lace up your runners and walk outside for 10 minutes. Or lay down and do 10 pushups. Or stop with the choccie croissant for brekky every damn morning. Want to save $10,000? Open a savings account and bank 20 bucks.
The thing is, no matter how small, it all counts and the funny thing about momentum is that it keeps going.
It’s so easy to get trapped in the cycle of reading, researching and talking about doing something, but never getting around to actually doing it. And if you don’t do anything, nothing happens. The secret is to put the book down/shut your mouth/stop procrastinating and just to do one little thing. Tomorrow, you can do more – and you will.
But for today, just start.
When I decided I wanted to start a business, I started by writing a blog post. A single blog post. And honestly? It all snowballed from there.
Sounds contradictory to everything you’ve ever heard about reaching your dreams, right? And, if you’re anything like me, you want to ace this thing you’ve decided to start (whatever it may be) and so you’ve set the bar high for yourself.
The thing is though, whilst boot camp four days a week/saving $1000 a month/calling your mum every day sounds achievable when you are starting out and super motivated, it usually isn’t sustainable.
Setting goals requiring maximum commitment ignores the reality that a lot of the time, circumstances aren’t perfect and your commitment is very rarely 100%.
Running every day is achievable if we’re feeling super motivated, and we don’t get injured, and we don’t get bored and over it. Saving $1000 a month is achievable if we our car doesn’t get towed, we don’t blow out on Saturday night and we eat brown rice and tuna every night. Calling Mum daily.. you get my drift.
If you want to succeed, scale back. Instead of writing a blog a day, commit to one a week.
You won’t feel like a failure when your motivation wanes and you you’re more likely to do it. You’ll still make progress, and you’re less likely to quit and achieve nothing. I decided once that I was going to save $250 a week. Every single week, I would end up blowing it because I’d simply set too tight a budget.
Six months later, I’d saved nothing. I decided to commit to just (what I considered) a measly $100 a week. It was ‘nothing’, but I did it every single week. And it added up.
Don’t get ahead of yourself. Great things take time.
It’s SO annoying that we can’t all just pick up a guitar and shred like Dave Grohl, isn’t it? The unsexy truth is about pretty much anything that you want to achieve, though, is that in order to do it well, you’re gonna have to spend a fair bit of time sucking at it.
If you decide to start, say, writing, for example, there’s a pretty good chance that you’re going to look back at your work in five years and cringe a bit.
The good news is, there are so many people who are afraid of sucking that they never even start. As long as you commit to not being one of them, you’re a step ahead. Give it a crack. Do okay. Listen to feedback. Do better. Fail. Try again.
And keep going, until one day you look back and you’re really bloody proud of yourself.
No-one can run a marathon if they’ve never run 100 metres.
Consistency is key. Show up every day and commit to pushing yourself forward. It takes small, consistent action, chipping away a little more each and every time. Lace up, and turn up.
Decision, big and small, ultimately shape our lives.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Usually, it’s the decisions that we DON’T make – through fear, or uncertainty, or simply because it’s easier to leave things as they are – that affect us the most.
Think about it.
Things like ‘should I ask this person on a date?’ ‘Should I quit my job and start a business?’ ‘Should I buy that plane ticket and move overseas’.
They’re all really scary things to decide to do, and so often we just don’t do them. We maintain the status quo.
But NOT making a decision IS a decision in itself.
And it’s the reason that we end up missing out on all of the excitement, adventure and flavour that makes life exciting. It’s stops us from doing the things we really want to do in our heart, because we’re scared.
Every time I’ve made a big, scary decision and have decided to be brave and go for it, my life has improved. Plain and simple.
Remember that not making a decision is also a decision, and choose wisely.
If you’re ever tempted to procrastinate or put off doing something that is important to you, just think of what happens if you don’t take action. If you don’t start now, where will you be in a week? In a year? In 10 years? Ultimately, you need to make sure – deep down inside – that you’re okay with letting yourself down and failing to live to your full potential.
Chances are you won’t be and if all else fails, let this fear drive you.
We only live once – and often, not for as long as we’d like to hope that we might.
If we don’t at least give our wildest dream a red hot crack, what’s the point?